If you're landing on this page because you've lost a child, please know that I am so very sorry for your loss. I want you to know that I believe your loss is real and that your little one that died is just as much a unique and unrepeatable human being as any other and that his or her death is as much a loss as any other. Grieving that child is a good and appropriate thing to do and you are not alone. My hope is that some of the songs I share here will help to give words to your grief as they did for me. You may also find some help in the post Scriptures for Miscarriage as well as other things I've written on the death of a baby that you can find if you click on the Pregnancy Loss page.
For some people, myself included, one of the best therapies in the world is music that pierces the heart. I guess I emote through music. Sometimes I forget that until I have some blessed alone time in the car and I remember what a release it is to crank that perfect song and let the words play and the tears fall. I still have several vivid memories from high school and college of post break-up drives filled with the perfect angsty music high on the stereo and hot tears streaming down my face.
When we lost Joseph Mary, music, like it had before, helped heal my heart and gave voice to what I couldn't express on my own. I made a CD of songs for Joseph Mary and for me, it was a really powerful way to work through the pain of losing our child. I thought I'd share with you some of those songs. It's hard to believe but that loss was over eight years ago so I know some of them are admittedly outdated and even corny, but that's okay, I think. I mean, they can still do their work. Some of them were written specifically about losing a loved one. Many of them, however, were intended to mean something totally different but still somehow they fit. They may not be the perfect choice for everyone but maybe there will be something here that will be that song for you.
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Held by Natalie Grant
Hold Me Now by Jennifer Knapp
Glory Baby by Watermark
Broken by Lifehouse
In My Arms Again by Michael W. Smith
Christopher Augustine by Bob Rice
Homesick by MercyMe
I Would've Loved You Anyway by Trisha Yearwood
He Will Carry Me by Mark Schultz
There You'll Be by Faith Hill
Who You'd Be Today by Kenny Chesney
Please Remember Me by Tim McGraw
(when I listen to this one, I think of it as me speaking to my little one and asking for his prayers rather than them asking to be remembered…I think it makes more sense that way. Except for the corny bridge which will always be corny no matter how you interpret it.)
There Will Come a Day by Faith Hill
Remember, don't write any of them off til you've cranked it loud…there's just something different that way.
If you have any songs that you feel could be added to this list or that were particularly important to you while grieving the loss of a child, please feel free to let others know in the comments. Maybe I'll add them in here, too.
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